Wedding Planning Myths Busted
You have to wear white
Throughout history women have worn white to their wedding for various reasons. Nowadays it is done out of mere tradition as the connotation of purity no longer accompanies the wearing of a white dress by a bride. You shouldn’t feel obligated or pressured into wearing white just because everyone else does it. Just be true to yourself. If that means you march down the aisle in a blush pink or canary yellow wedding dress then so be it. All that matters is that you feel beautiful and confident as you walk toward your future husband who will no doubt be smiling from ear to ear.
Friends are just as good as professional Vendors
Sure your friend is a good photographer and is willing to cut you a huge deal to do your wedding. You are friends after all and you can even consider their services your wedding gift.
What can be better? What can go wrong? Well, where problems arise is in the details. A vendor will have done many weddings before and will have a proven track record for showing up on time and delivering on a product or service that they promised. They will also have a contract that legally obligates them to perform those duties to the best of their abilities and in the most professional manner. A professional vendor will have the proper education, training, experience, credentials, reviews, equipment, work samples, and professionalism that you deserve on your wedding day. The discount or free service that your friend will give you might not come with that same guarantee. You don’t want your DJ friend drinking on the job right? Well sometimes friends don’t think the rules apply to them because you are friends. Save yourself the potential headache and hire a professional.
Wedding Planners are an unnecessary expense
That could not be further from the truth. Wedding planners are there to help make sure your special day is as stress-free for you as possible. Wedding planners offer assistance with a wide range of services from budget tracking to reception ideas, and can even get vendor discounts that you will otherwise be unable to attain on your own, which could end up saving you plenty in the long run. Looking for a reliable limo service? Chances are your wedding planner has a recommendation that they know will take good care of you. Wedding Planners offer a series of packages with tiered services. So even if you don’t need help with all of your wedding planning, you can still hire one for day-of-coordination. You definitely don’t want to deal with a lighting problem at the reception hall while you are getting ready to walk down the aisle. Let a planner take care of all of those “what if” scenarios and sit back and enjoy your special day.
DIY in an inexpensive alternative
Going DIY is a great way to put a personal touch on your wedding. Its always nice to hear people say how much they adore something that we spent hours creating. DIY can definitely be a creative outlet and really show your personality more so than renting or purchasing already made decorations. However, most people don’t think about how much money they are spending on supplies or how time consuming its going to be. Make sure you consider the cost to DIY versus the alternatives. It may be your cheapest option, but it may also end up costing more in the end.
Your wedding will “break the bank”
The first thing you need to do is be realistic about what you can afford versus what you have been planning in your head your whole life. Always make a budget first before you start booking venues and vendors. With your budget in hand you can write down everything you want for your wedding and prioritize whats most important to you. Make a list of items you are willing to spend a little extra on and find ways to cut costs in other areas. The most important thing is to stick to your budget or as close to your budget as possible. That champagne fountain that seems like a must have now might seem silly a year later when looking through your wedding album. The last thing you want is wedding remorse.
A DJ is better than a Band
This is all about personal preference. While I certainly prefer a DJ to a wedding band, it doesn’t necessarily mean one is better than the other. You might be under the impression that all wedding DJ’s play is “YMCA” and “Shout” and any other cheesy song that is played at every other wedding. If you are planning your upcoming nuptials I recommend checking out both options, regardless of preconceived notions. You might be dead set on a DJ and end up being blown away by a professional wedding band that can belt out that Journey hit as good as that DJ can spin it. There are also hybrid DJ’s who are also professional musicians and are incorporating their special skills on the saxophone or keyboard into your music experience. Its the best of both worlds.
Wedding food all tastes the same
I once had someone in the industry tell me that wedding food isn’t important because no one will remember it anyway. I couldn’t disagree more. Maybe that was the case 20 years ago, but nowadays with “foodies” everywhere its safe to assume that guests are looking forward to trying and comparing your food to every other wedding dinner they’ve had over the years. Catering companies are getting in on the action too. They want their food talked about and any wedding guest could be a potential future client. What better way to sample a caterer than a friend’s reception? Food is important and it will be talked about after your wedding is over. Make sure you give them something to talk about.
You should splurge on your wedding dress
Thanks to shows like “Say Yes To The Dress” and “I Found The Gown” on TLC, women have what they call “champagne taste on a beer budget” when it comes to wedding gowns. If money were no option I would have the most glorious Pnina Tornai dress anyone has ever seen. Of course I would never be able to afford even one of her most modest dresses. Some women are perfectly fine with paying $5,000 on a dress that they will wear once. For the rest of us, that’s not even an option. There is nothing wrong with purchasing a dress for around or under $1000. Just remember to only try on dresses that are within your price range. Going outside of your price range to try on a dress that you love will just leave you heartbroken if you can’t afford it. By doing this you also risk comparing all other dresses to it, which may also leave you panicking to find a dress at the last minute. After all, like I said in the beginning, its not really about the dress, its about how you feel in it that counts.