You’re getting married because you’ve found someone who you love enough to want to spend the rest of your life with. Getting married can change things for you in some ways, but it doesn’t necessarily change everything. You might feel like you and your spouse are now more of a unit, with clear goals for what you want your future to look like. However, you’re also still going to be your own person. Before you get married, it’s a good idea to think about who you are and maybe even do some things to show yourself some love. Here are some of the things you might do to love yourself before you tie the knot.
Treat Yourself to a Trip
There are honeymoons, babymoons, and other trips you take before big life events. But what about before you get married? Some people turn their bachelor or bachelorette party into a longer event, going on a trip instead of just going out at home. But you don’t need to have an excuse to go away, and you don’t even need to take anyone else with you. If you like to travel or feel like you’ve never had the chance to do it as a single person, why not take a trip on your own and do whatever you want?
Get Your Hair Done
You’ll probably enjoy some pampering and styling before your wedding, but there’s no need to wait until then to care for your appearance. If you feel like a new look, why not treat yourself to a new hairstyle? As well as giving you a way to experiment with what you look like, a lot of people feel like it’s a relaxing experience. You get your hair washed, you can spend time sitting there while you get some reading done or have a chat, and you walk away with a beautiful new hairstyle.
Go to the Spa
If you’ve never spent time at a spa, before you get married could be the perfect time to do it. Of course, you can still enjoy a trip to the spa after getting married, but planning your wedding can be pretty stressful. When you’re feeling stressed, getting pampered at a spa can be the ideal way to unwind. You could have a massage, get a facial, enjoy a mani-pedi or spend some time in a hot pool or hot tub. Go for a day or maybe even longer to give yourself a treat.
Have a Special Photography Session
Wedding photographs give you a beautiful reminder of your special day. But if you’re feeling nervous about having all eyes on you, consider the option of having a photography session before your wedding that’s just for you. You could look for a boudoir photographer to take some sexy photos of you that will help you to feel confident and beautiful. It’s a great way to give yourself a confidence boost and feel better in your body. Plus, it can also double up as an excellent wedding present or pre-wedding present that’s sure to lead to some fun.
Buy Yourself a Gift
Getting a ring when you get engaged is wonderful, and you might be anticipating some wonderful wedding presents too. But who says you have to wait for someone else to buy you a gift? Giving yourself permission to get a gift that’s just for you can be life-changing. People can often be reluctant to buy things for themselves, especially when it’s something that has no practical purpose or is pricey. If you combine your finances when you’re married, you probably won’t be free to just buy yourself an expensive gift without discussing it first. So why not do it while you still can?
Talk to a Therapist
You don’t have to have a mental illness or be in crisis to speak to a therapist. In fact, everyone can benefit from seeing a therapist to help them stay balanced and to talk about the things that make them worried or stressed. Seeing a therapist before you get married is a good idea. It gives you the opportunity to talk about any issues that you feel might be stopping you from being completely open in your relationship. It gives you the chance to address any problems that might be worrying you. And there’s no need to stop when you get married, either.
Take Yourself on a Date
Have you ever gone on a date on your own? The idea can feel pretty strange, and a lot of people feel self-conscious about the idea of being seen alone in various settings. But being comfortable with your own company can help you to feel more comfortable about yourself as a whole. You could take yourself to see a movie, for a coffee or out to dinner. If you think you’ll feel awkward, take a book or something else that you can do while you’re on your own.
Pick Up a New Hobby
Are you worried about being your own person once you’re married? It’s nice to be a couple, but you should still be an individual. If this is something that you’re concerned about, consider taking up a new hobby before your wedding. Find something that you like to do without your partner, whether it’s something you do alone or with friends. You can continue it after you get married, so you have something that belongs to you.
Know Yourself Better
Take some time before you get married to know yourself better. This can mean a variety of things, from asking yourself important questions about your values to what your fashion style is. Get in touch with yourself to find out who you really are as an individual, as well as who you are as part of a couple. You might try out some new things or just think about what you like, what you think, and what matters to you.
Before getting married, spend some time getting to know yourself better and learning to love yourself.