Getting Married Can Cause Anxiety


You’re excited to spend the rest of your life with your
partner, but it can also cause you anxiety to think about being with the same
person forever. Remember that feeling anxious before getting married is
natural. It’s a big deal to choose someone that you will be committing to being
with indefinitely. Also, remember that being with someone you love and adore is
a warm feeling that is the opposite of loneliness.
Finding someone to share your life with is a beautiful thing. You can confide
your secrets in them, share your hopes and dreams for the future and start to
build a life with this person. You made a conscious decision to be with your
partner for many reasons. You love that person, you feel comfortable with them,
you feel understood by them and they add value to your life. That’s how you
know you’ve made the right decision to get married when your partner-to-be
enriches your life and makes you feel good.
You might not be aware, but your partner might have similar
fears to yours. You’re nervous about tying the knot, and so are they. But if
you don’t talk about your fears with one another, you might not realize that
you have similar concerns. Maybe they’re slightly different than your worries,
but you still have trepidation about getting married. Having an open and honest
dialogue about your feelings can help you better understand one another and
However, it might be difficult to face your fears about
marriage. You might be concerned that expressing them to your partner will hurt
their feelings even if that’s not what your intent was. This is a great time to
consider pre-marital counseling.
Whether you’re working with an online therapist or going to a
therapist’s office, pre-marital counseling can help you and your partner get on
the same page before you’re legally wed to each other. A licensed therapist who
is trained to work with couples can guide the two of you down the right path.
This person is dedicated to helping both of you feel more comfortable becoming
an official married couple.
There are many things to discuss in pre-marital counseling,
such as do the two of you want to have children? Do the two of you want to stay
where you are or move to another city or even another country? There are so many
things that the two of you can talk about in the presence of a therapist. Use
the opportunity to express your individual opinions and if there are
disagreements, let the therapist help you work them out.
People often think of couple’s counseling as something that
happens after you are married for a long time and your relationship is going
downhill. This doesn’t have to be the case! You can create the solid foundation
for a relationship before you get married by talking things out before you say
“I do.” A pre-marital counselor’s job is to help the two of you see one
another’s perspectives and fortify your bond before you are officially a
married couple. You will come out of these therapy sessions feeling unified,
and hopefully, the anxiety you felt about getting married will have lessened.
Wishing you a happy wedding!
Sarah Fader
is the CEO and Founder of Stigma Fighters, a non-profit organization that
encourages individuals with mental illness to share their personal stories. She
has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Atlantic,
Quartz, Psychology Today, The Huffington Post, HuffPost Live, and Good Day New




Sarah is a
native New Yorker who enjoys naps, talking to strangers, and caring for her two
small humans and two average-sized cats. Like six million other Americans,
Sarah lives with panic disorder. Through Stigma Fighters, Sarah hopes to change
the world, one mental health stigma at a time.



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