Writing your own vows?

Are you about to get married and haven’t decided what you want to do about vows yet? Maybe you don’t want a traditional wedding and want to be different and write your own vows! The traditional vows said at the ceremony are:
“In the name of God, I, (name), take you, (name), to be my husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish all the days of my life. This is my solemn vow.”

If you are not religious or don’t believe in God or simple just want to be original here are some things you should think about when writing your own vows.

The first thing to keep in mind is that not only will your friends be there, but your family will be there as well. You don’t want to say something inappropriate that may seem funny to you but could offend others. It may be your day, but it might be a good idea to keep things PG during the ceremony. 

Before writing your vows talk to your future wife/husband and try to agree on a tone you want to take when writing the vows. Do you want to be super serious? Do you want to be more laid back and fun with them? You should talk about this especially if you aren’t telling each other the vows until the wedding ceremony. Make sure you are both on the same page with things!

When writing your vows just know that your guests don’t know all of you and your spouses inside jokes. It may be nice to add your own twist on the vows but if you do, you may confuse your guests.

Try adding a few similar things. Both agree to do the same things. They don’t have to be exactly the same vows; however, you should have some similar things that you both want to vow to one another. Try adding something like, “I promise to always be by your side.” Something simple but the same as each other.

The best thing you can do if you choose to write your own vows is to write them down! You will be the one who knows what you want to say. It is very easy to get nervous and forget things when your whole family and all of your friends are right there watching you. Write them down and give them to your officiant. You should also make an extra copy just in case something happens!

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